So 2013 has arrived.
My parents are asleep, the house is quiet ... so I shall have some quiet time doing some reflection.
There were 2 major events in 2012 - my job at Eden School and my matriculation into NTU. You can't really call 2012 a rollercoaster ride for me - there were some downs and ups but not anything as drastic as in 2011.
Eden School:
Opened my eyes up to the physically and mentally disadvantaged (no judgement made here). Worked with inspiring people who spent so much effort trying to teach these unique students. Taught me the idea of the benefits of "being purpose built", and of course good planning.
Met 5 other young girls whom you could say prepared me for my university life - after a 2 year hiatus from girls and studies. I doubt any of them read this blog, but I really do wish to keep close contact with them. They are full of energy and lovely to be with! (Why did I make myself sound so old?)
NTU:
So my 4.5 years of further education begins, following the footsteps of thousands of individuals vying for that coveted degree. Despite the lesser focus on results, I believe that paper qualifications still hold great relevance for me in the future. Besides, that degree is just one means to distinguish yourself from the others!
This also begins my life as a student, trying to be in the crowd. Trying to find my own identity. Trying to find things I like. Trying to learn new things. And last but not least, Trying to find the special people.
In every phase of your life, you will meet new people. You will have that new special friends, that close circle in that new phase of your life.
However, I have to ensure I do not forget my roots. It is a pity that with our new phases of life, those who were in your previous phases... get phased out.
I have to constantly remind myself to get in touch with them, it is some simple ways to keep the relationships alive.
There are several goals for 2013, and they are probably the same goals withstanding for quite some time (in no particular order)
1) My Guitar
2) First class Honours
3) Sports
4) Fully healed left arm
5) Dance
6) Catching up with old friends
7) Cooking new dishes!
8) and possibly getting a new flame
Good luck to me in achieving the list.
I read the last time as good luck to me in achieving the last whoops
ReplyDeleteI used to think that old friendships could be left to run on autopilot, but found out after JC that effort is required to sustain them. Doesn't matter whether one side puts in more effort, the key thing is effort must be there.
Actually I think maintaining old friendships is actually easier than forging new, meaningful relationships. Around our age we already have 2-4 social groups, pri/sec/jc classmates/army friends, so in line with Dunbar's number (150) our brains simply lack the capacity to accommodate anymore. Plus there's always self-created barrier to opening up to others, for fear of being judged, being ridiculed, of allowing others to have access to your inner self. Reminds me of the Superman/Batman difference, attached VS detached. And here I bring in Brene Brown's Power of Vulnerability, on how putting yourself out there is a powerful trust building tool.
Personally, I am still open to more contacts.
ReplyDeleteAlways on the look out to know more people, and to get them to know me.
Call it attention seeking you may, but I feel I can possibly accommodate more?
Partially because I have yet to be super close with anyone - to the point I am spending majority of my time with them.
Only those who are attached would probably realise their rate of "new friendship form" will decline. Singles like me, on the other hand, still have plenty of time (:
Even if you get attached, spending all your time with your significant other is... not good, in my opinion, the two should have distinct lives, if not what's there to talk about? No stories to share, because everything would be greeted with a 'Orh I was there, remember?'
ReplyDeleteReminds me of a joke I once heard though:
Get a girlfriend, lose your friends.
Get married, lose your family.
Get children, lose your mind.