Be Friends with Failure

You might have seen this on Facebook as a viral post.
And I might be overdue on posts.

Nonetheless, this is something worth to look at, to constantly remind yourself how good you are intrinsically. 

Be Friends with Failure

Because too many times I have seen people giving up on themselves. And I don't want them to.

And one more thing:

If you are ever bored, it's because you are not curious enough.

There are so many new things to discover each day. Even if you find yourself with nothing to do, just chilling out and watching scenery is itself something to do.

Friends ask me, how do I cope with all the stress?
Enjoy anything you do. I am lucky enough to have the luxury of being successful in some things that I do, but that is primarily because I like learning, whether it will be useful or not; because anything will be useful, it is a matter of when. Fight those unhealthy tendencies and thoughts that go something like "Why am I learning this shit?" or "It is not even going to help us next time!". 
There's a difference between saying it for fun during lunch chat and actually believing in those statements.
I may not like studying some subjects. Neither do I like to see myself scribbling and pondering over some questions only to smack myself in the face when I see how simple the solutions are. I curse and swear at myself for stupidity, overlooking simple details or just careless mistakes. But do I actually let them affect me?

No.

"Failure is a sign you are learning something new." Even if you have tried time and again and keep making mistake, it's a sign that:
1. You can try a new method to learn it.
2. You simply haven't learnt it that well, so learn again!

Oh and try listening to this Youtube channel, been my study music for this sem: Relax Daily

While waiting ..

While waiting for my 11MB poster to be rendered and saved by my computer, I went some internet trawling and came across this.

The Wife List: 10 Qualities

Of course we should not turn people into walking checklists, but also look whether they have the potential to do so.

In fact, end of the day, I feel I can sum it up again to self confidence.

Nonetheless, there was one striking line that reverberates with one of my own ethos: 

Marriage is a joining of two lives that existed prior to meeting the other person.

My version: I love you not for you to become Kevin's girlfriend (proof I am straight xD), but I love you because you are .


And interestingly, the author's wife made the female version of the checklist, and curious me went to take a look. 

The Husband List: 12 Non-Negotiables

Strip away her religious tendencies, I agree the characteristics that she is looking for are characteristics that will lead to a stable and sustained relationship. 

Definitely, everyone is a work in progress, hence if I could add one more point, it would be: They should have a learning and never-say-die spirit. 


Remember, this is not about "ticking off mental checklists" when you find a person of the opposite sex. Even if someone lacks some, enlighten him/her and bring him/her on a journey where both of you can improve each other.

Being adaptable and I don't know what to do

Being adaptable is really the key to success these days.

It's not about being the smartest, or the fastest, but whether you give yourself the option to do whatever the situation requires you to do.

You get fit not only because you look better or can run/jump/swim faster, but because it gives you more options to
1. try other sports/games
2. literally escape from danger

There are always weaknesses to everything (in the process of being fit you might injure yourself and make yourself worse), but being adaptable means you have means to counter these weaknesses whenever you need to. 

For example, gazelles can run long distance (they can sustain a longer distance than cheetahs) but do not have the option to sprint short distances (which cheetahs are famous for), this makes them less adaptable as they are unable to "switch" modes of running if they need to.

Here's a more relevant analogy. You may be the most diplomatic person around the class likes you, but inevitable there will be people in the future whom you will meet that will take advantage of your diplomacy. Are you able to switch to a more aggressive stance to get what you want? If you can, then good you are adaptable. But converse is also true, if you can't, you are not adaptable and will be subjected to abuse (and you will feel helpless about it because you will be wondering why your diplomacy doesn't work at that moment).

And here's a tip to the usual complaints of "I don't know what to do":

If you find yourself in a situation facing a project/term paper/written report that you claim you have no idea what to do, imagine yourself in a situation where you are given 10 minutes to come up with anything linked to the theme in question otherwise you'll get shot/killed/mauled/decapitated/tortured/maimed (assuming these are treatments you don't want to get).

I think you would have probably come up with 1 idea by now. Work on that idea, brainstorm and apply that scenario again until you have a sizeable amount of ideas.


Enjoy school!