Key takeaway
We usually make this 3 assumptions of people who disagree with us:
1. The ignorance assumption : The person is ignorant
and if we find out the person has the same facts as us
2. The idiocy assumption : The person is just plain stupid to understand the facts
and if we find out the person is not such an idiot after all
3. The evil assumption : The person has secret underlying motives
Wrong or right is all about the matter of perspectives, and see who is able to "argue" or "debate" and present more convincing and reasonable arguments. Usually between 2 reasonable and logical (I would like to clarify that tending to emotional aspects is itself a logical act too) parties matters would be clarified quickly and amiably.
This is when factors such as obstinacy, misunderstanding and undisclosed intentions mess things up, resulting in heated arguments and cold war. And both side would harbour those negative thoughts about the other party (that he is such an idiot) and him/herself (why won't people listen to me).
Time to practice clear communication, willingness to step back, and disclose my intentions.
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